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5 Ways to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You

In her book, Superflirt,
Tracey Cox reveals 5 simple tricks that you can use to make just about
anyone fall in love with you. You won’t believe how easy it is to win
over the object of your affection. Find out how you can send all the
right signals

Some people will read this and
think what I’m suggesting is wrong. I admit it’s about manipulating and
meddling with people’s emotions. Most particularly, people you wish to
God would meddle with you. In an ideal world, I’d agree. It would be
preferable if everyone you wanted just fell in your lap, without having
to play games. Unfortunately, real life doesn’t always work that way.

Sometimes you can spend six months living, breathing, dripping,
drooling, loving and lusting after someone with zero result. And it’s
when that happens that the techniques that follow suddenly seem like a
gift from heaven. Besides, it’s not like I’m proposing black magic or
suggesting any of these techniques will force someone to fall in love
with you against their will. (If they did, I’d currently be shacked up
with Brad Pitt.) What they will do though is nudge the odds a lot
higher in your favor. Is that really so bad? I don’t think so. Go on,
keep reading. You know you want to…

Hang Around Lots…but Then Be Unavailable

The more you interact with someone, the more they’ll like you, says
David Lieberman, a U.S. expert in human behavior. He’s right actually.
Several studies show repeated exposure to practically any stimulus
makes us like it more (the only time it doesn’t hold true is if our
initial reaction to it is negative). So forget about being aloof,
evasive, and unavailable in the beginning. Instead, find lots of
excuses to spend time with him.

Now, pay attention, because this is the tricky part. Just when you’re
convinced you’ve won them over and they like you, start being a little
less available. And then even less, until they hardly see you at all.
You’ve now effectively instigated the “law of scarcity.” We all know
this one: people want what they can’t have and by constantly being
available, you diminish your value. If every time you walked outside
your front door there was a huge pile of diamonds to step over, you’d
hardly see them as precious would you? The law of scarcity only makes
them want you. Be around and then not around and they’ll want and
like you. I’m stating the obvious here, but liking someone is
important. We talk endlessly about chemistry, passion, sexual
attraction, and even more about love, yet “like” rarely gets mention.
Opposites don’t attract long-term; we search for similarities in a
partner. Most of us can’t see the point in hanging around friends we
don’t like, so why do it with a lover? Liking someone is more important
long-term than actually loving them. It’s not just similarities in our
personalities that count. If you go out with someone who looks like
you, they’re four times more likely to fall in love with you! “That’s
so true!” said a girlfriend, when I told her this trivia tidbit. “Look
at my sister and her husband!” Umm

— why? Lisa’s sister
has bleached blonde hair, freckles, and ivory skin. Her husband is
Indian. “I’m not quite with you,” I said carefully. “I know it’s not
obvious,” she said, “But it’s the proportion of their faces. His mother
came up to me at their wedding and said, ‘They will be happy because
they are the same. Look at them.’ And it’s true. They have the same
features, in the same places, in the same proportions.
Don’t Do Nice Things for Them. Let Them Do Nice Things for You

If you do something nice for someone, it makes you feel good on two
levels. You feel pleased with yourself and extra-warm toward the person
you’ve just spoiled. To justify the effort or expense, we often
over-idealize how wonderful he is to deserve it! End result: we like
the person more. When someone does something nice for us, we’re
pleased. But there are a whole lot of other emotions that come into
play —
and they’re not all good. Sometimes we feel overwhelmed. There’s
pressure to live up to being the wonderful person who inspired such a
gift/act, not to mention pressure to return the favor. It’s all even
trickier if the “nice thing” comes from someone you very much like but
aren’t sure about yet. Got the point? When we’re infatuated with
someone, we’re desperate to do nice things for him. You’re much better
off letting him spoil you.

Give Them the Eye

Harvard psychologist Zick Rubin set out to see if he could measure love
scientifically and achieved it by recording the amount of time lovers
spent staring at each other. He discovered that couples who are deeply
in love look at each other 75 percent of the time when talking and are
slower to look away when someone else dares to intrude. In normal
conversation, people look at each other between 30-60 percent of the
time. The significance of what’s now known as Rubin’s Scale is obvious:
It’s possible to tell how “in love” people are by measuring the amount
of time they spend gazing adoringly. Some psychologists still use it
during counseling to work out how much affection couples feel for each
other. It also happens to be remarkably handy information if you want
to make someone fall in love with you. Here’s how it works: If you look
at someone you like 75 percent of the time when they’re talking to you,
you trick their brain. The brain knows the last time that someone
looked at them that long and often, it meant they were in love. So it
thinks OK, I’m obviously in love with this person as well, and starts
to release phenylethylamine (PEA). PEA is a chemical cousin to
amphetamines and is secreted by the nervous system when we first fall
in love. PEA is what makes our palms sweat, our tummies flip over, and
our hearts race. The more PEA the person you want has pumping through
the bloodstream, the more likely he is to fall in love with you. While
you can’t honestly force someone to adore you if he’s not remotely
interested (they won’t let you look into their eyes for that long, for
a start!), it is entirely possible to kick-start the production of PEA
using this technique. Try it. I think you’ll be pretty impressed with
the results. Give someone the sensation of feeling in love whenever
he’s with you, and it’s not such a huge leap of logic for him to
finally decide that he is! Don’t Look Away

There was another
crucial finding from Rubin’s research: The couples took longer to look
away when someone else joined the conversation. Again, if you do this
to someone who’s not in love with you (yet), you trick his brain into
thinking he is, and even more PEA floods into his bloodstream.
Relationships expert Leil Lownes calls this technique making “toffee
eyes.” Simply lock eyes with the person you like and keep them there,
even when he has finished talking or someone else joins the
conversation. When you eventually do drag your eyes away (three or four
seconds later), do it slowly and reluctantly —
as though they’re attached by warm toffee. This technique may not sound
terribly inspired but, believe me, if done properly it can literally
take your breath away. If you’re too shy to gaze openly, skip the
toffee and think bouncing ball. Look away and at the other person who’s
joined the conversation, but every time they finish a sentence, let
your eyes bounce back to the person you’re interested in. This is a
checking gesture — you’re checking his reaction to what the speaker is saying — and lets him know you’re more interested in him than the other person.

Practice Pupillometrics

We all know “bedroom eyes” when we see them: it’s the look of lust.
There’s just one thing you need for bedroom eyes: big pupils. According
to pupillometrics, the science of pupil study, this is the crucial
element we respond to. You can’t consciously control your pupils (one
reason why people say the eyes don’t lie). But you can create the right
conditions to inspire large pupils and get the effect. First, reduce
light. Our pupils expand when they’re robbed of it, one reason why
candlelight and dimmer switches are de rigueur
in romantic restaurants. It’s not just the softening of light that
makes our faces appear more attractive, larger pupils also help.
Scientists showed two sets of pictures of a woman’s face to men. The
photograph was identical, except for one thing; the pupils in one set
had been doctored to make them larger. When shown the doctored
photograph, men judged the woman as twice more attractive than when
shown the real photo. It was repeated with a man’s face and tested on
women and gave the same result. Our pupils also enlarge when we look at
something we like. Again, this can be proved using pictures. This time,
researchers snuck a picture of a naked woman into a pile of otherwise
bland, commonplace photographs then watched men’s pupil size when they
flicked through them. Without exception, the men’s pupils expanded on
cue. This means if you’re attracted to someone a lot, your pupils are
probably already big, black holes. All good. To ensure this is
happening or to up the effect of your bedroom eyes, focus on the part
of the person you like the most. (On second thought, better make it the
next best thing.)


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